Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Give honest, sincere appreciation.
What do you want? Not many things, but the few things that you do wish, you crave with an insistence that will not be denied. Some of the things most people want include:
1. Health and the preservation of life.
2. Food.
3. Sleep.
4. Money and the things money will buy.
5. Life in the hereafter.
6. Sexual gratification.
7. The well-being of our children.
8. A feeling of importance.
Almost all these wants are usually gratified - all except one. But there is one longing - almost as deep, almost as imperious, as the desire for food or sleep - which is seldom gratified. It is what Freud calls " the desire to be great" and what Dewey calls the "desire to be important".
Lincoln once began a letter saying: "Everybody likes a compliment." William James said: "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." He didn't speak, mind you, of the "wish" or "desire" or "longing" to be appreciated. He said the "craving" to be appreciated.
Here is a gnawing and unflatering human hunger, and the rare individual who honestly satisfies this heart hunger will hold people in the palm of his or her hand.
This desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing difference between mankind and the animals. To illustrate: When I was a farm boy, my father bred hogs and cattle. We used to exhibit our hogs and cattle at the country fairs throughout the middlewest. We won first prizes by the score. My father pinned his blue ribbon on a sheet of white muslin. He would hold one end while i hold the other while he exhibit the blue ribbons.
The hogs didn't care about the ribbons they had won. But Father did. These prizes give him a feeling of importance.
If our ancestors hadn't had this flaming urge for a feeling of importance, civilization would have been impossible. Without it, we should have been just about like animals.
This desire makes you want to wear the latest styles, drive the latest cars, and talk about your brilliant achievements.
I shall pass this way but once; and good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human beings, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.
Let's memorise this phrase. Let's try to figure out the other person's good points. Then forget flattery. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise," and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
1. Health and the preservation of life.
2. Food.
3. Sleep.
4. Money and the things money will buy.
5. Life in the hereafter.
6. Sexual gratification.
7. The well-being of our children.
8. A feeling of importance.
Almost all these wants are usually gratified - all except one. But there is one longing - almost as deep, almost as imperious, as the desire for food or sleep - which is seldom gratified. It is what Freud calls " the desire to be great" and what Dewey calls the "desire to be important".
Lincoln once began a letter saying: "Everybody likes a compliment." William James said: "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." He didn't speak, mind you, of the "wish" or "desire" or "longing" to be appreciated. He said the "craving" to be appreciated.
Here is a gnawing and unflatering human hunger, and the rare individual who honestly satisfies this heart hunger will hold people in the palm of his or her hand.
This desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief distinguishing difference between mankind and the animals. To illustrate: When I was a farm boy, my father bred hogs and cattle. We used to exhibit our hogs and cattle at the country fairs throughout the middlewest. We won first prizes by the score. My father pinned his blue ribbon on a sheet of white muslin. He would hold one end while i hold the other while he exhibit the blue ribbons.
The hogs didn't care about the ribbons they had won. But Father did. These prizes give him a feeling of importance.
If our ancestors hadn't had this flaming urge for a feeling of importance, civilization would have been impossible. Without it, we should have been just about like animals.
This desire makes you want to wear the latest styles, drive the latest cars, and talk about your brilliant achievements.
I shall pass this way but once; and good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human beings, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.
Let's memorise this phrase. Let's try to figure out the other person's good points. Then forget flattery. Give honest, sincere appreciation. Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise," and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them.
i know that i have loved you ... at 12:20 AM
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